Here's My Backstory...
Learning to really feel my feelings was a game changer in my career, in my entrepreneurial journey, and my life. For a long time, I didn’t feel satisfied or successful in my work.
I tried to take the well worn path to success by choosing one thing that would allow me to make a good living, and stick with it until retirement. I was even lucky enough to choose something that I enjoyed. That was becoming a counselor helping students, alumni, and community members with personal and career issues, with the goal of one day directing a counseling center. Well I achieved that goal. However, that experience turned out to be draining and disheartening.
The problem was that I struggled with how to use my different passions in a way that truly fulfilled me. While the world wanted to stick me in a box based on my qualifications.
Besides working in toxic environments where I was forced to show up fully armored every single day. I knew deep down I yearned to pursue my diverse interests. Although I had expertise in several areas: counseling, leadership, adult learning, organizational development, environmental health and sustainability, sex education. And I am evolving and changing, like most people who have multiple passions. However, I was constantly reminded, in subtle and not so subtle ways, that to be satisfied and successful meant choosing one thing and sticking with it. So I tried picking just one thing and sticking to it. That didn’t work for me. Unfortunately, I would later discover that this conventional advice wasn’t just limited to professionals. It is also advice that the entrepreneurial world dispenses in large doses.
The year I turned 40 was one of the worst years of my life.
I wasn’t where I envisioned that I would be professionally or personally. I wasn't where I believed that I “should be” in my career. I thought that something was wrong with me. I was depressed and angry. My self-doubt was snowballing. Causing my inner critic to blast me with its unsolicited two cents. Making it that much more difficult for me to make the time, energy, and space to get the clarity I needed, and have the courage and confidence to go for what I truly wanted. I was beyond burned out and didn’t see a way out. Worse, I had a tough time getting the right type of help that I needed, even though I am a trained therapist with a specialization in career counseling.
The year I turned 40 was one of the best years of my life.
Because that is when I awakened. That’s when I realized that to heal, I had to really work through what I was feeling. To learn, change, and grow, I had to really work through what I was feeling. Allowing me to let go of who I was expected to be, as an highly educated, highly skilled, high performing Black woman with high desires.
Learning to fully feel my feelings allowed me to honor and embrace being multipassionate, resonance woman, scanner, polymath, multipotentialite or whatever you want to call it. The point is that I can do the things that I truly love. There have been a lot of twists and turns in my journey. Some days were better than others, but I had to learn to be with all that I was feeling, the good, the bad, and the ugly. I am still a loving and compassionate work in progress on this.
This led me to creatively merge all of my passions, gifts, knowledge, skills, and experiences into Work With What You Love™ coaching program to help my fellow Black & Brown 40+ ladies work through their feelings and redefine what satisfaction and success means for them. So they can create a career be that as professional or an entrepreneur that truly feeds their heart and soul.
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